Have you ever met one of “those” couples?
I am sure you know what I mean. Those perfect, cohabitating couples, who seem to know the secret to life, the universe, and everything? Well, I can guarantee you that couple started out the same as the rest of us. Now that you know there is hope; how do you take the leap into cohabitating bliss?
Everyone knows that communication is the key to every successful relationship, and this applies to successful cohabitation as well. Communication is not just talking with your partner, but slowing down and listening to what your partner is saying. It also means being truly honest with yourself and your partner, despite how difficult this can be. If you have wanted a sunny, two bedroom apartment with a deck, but your partner picks a dark basement studio apartment with a cement block for a yard, it will not take long to be unhappy with your living situation, and there is a good chance you will take it out on your partner. It is very important to be clear about what you need and expect out of your move. Make a list of must haves and go over them together before your move. Having clear discussions in advance of your move about finances, logistics, and your needs will help keep things going smoothly, and keep both of you happier in the long run.
Now that you and your partner have both made must have lists, this means that you are going to have to learn to compromise since it is unlikely you both will get everything you want. Go over your lists together, decide on things you both must have, and other things that you can live without. Some things that are very important to your partner may not matter to you. Keep these things in mind when planning your move together. You may not like your partner’s life-size Cher cut-out, but if it makes them happy you may have to be willing to hum “If I Could Turn Back Time” on your way to work each morning. Compromise is not easy, but it will make your life easier once you learn to do it successfully.
You have been living alone and enjoying the single life, and with that, you have collected a lot of stuff. How much of that stuff do you really need? Now that you are planning to move in with your partner, it is time to downsize. You are combining your life with the person you love, and starting a new life together. So it’s time to get rid of those old textbooks from college you will never read again, the clothes in your closet you haven’t worn in five years but are keeping “just in case”, your collection of Absolute vodka bottles that you drank in college. It may be painful to let them go, but not only will your partner be happy that you made space for them, but downsizing will also help to make your move simpler, cheaper, and easier for you both.
DON’T RUIN THE MOVE WITH THE MOVE
There are almost as many different moving options as there are cold days in Chicago. It may be tempting to save money and try to do everything yourself, or even hire a less expensive “by the hour” moving company. But before you finalize your decision, really think about what will be the simplest and therefore least stressful choice for you and your partner. If hiring movers will tap out your budget and raise your stress levels over the edge, throw a moving party and buy lunch for all your friends after they load everything up, then splurge on a massage for you and your partner after the move to prevent injuries. If it is within your budget, consider a trusted and quality moving service, like Bernard Movers. This will not only save your back from extra strain but reduce strain on your relationship as well. Good quality movers will keep your move smooth and quick, protect your furniture and valuables, and keep your stress at bay. There is no wrong choice when it comes to moving, but plan ahead, and do what is best for you and your partner to keep your move as smooth and easy as possible.
Remember that perfect couple we talked about at the start of the article? There is one thing that they have learned about living together that keeps them happy and seemingly perfect: how to have fun. You hopefully decided to move in with your partner because you like spending time with them. Now that you are going to be living together, you will be seeing much more of each other, making it easy to slip into the routine. Make time to see each other: have date nights, throw dinner parties, or even just surf the internet while sitting together on the sofa. Setting aside time together will help to keep you from falling into the doldrums of the daily grind. With all the stress that comes with moving, and moving forward, remember that your partner is there to make it all better, and hopefully, a lot more fun.
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